Then the woman of Samaria
said to Him, “How is it that You, being a Jew, ask a drink from me, a Samaritan
woman?” For Jews have no dealings with Samaritans.” – John 4:9
“You talkin’ to me?” is not a phrase uncommon to the urban world. We’re not
“talkin’” about a polite inquiry here. We’re talking about a phrase of
indignation. It’s a phrase that can invite violence. It’s a phrase that puts up
a barrier; it announces someone has crossed the line; the imaginary boundary that
protects personal space. One way or the other, it’s a phrase of clarification. It
brings a conversation into focus and identifies the parties speaking. When you
read a message like this, hear a sermon or someone tries to engage you in a
conversation concerning the things of God maybe you say or think, “You talkin’
to me?” Is that for me? If you aren’t walking with the Lord, Jesus is talkin’
to you. Are you listening?
We see a version of “You talkin’ to me?” in a conversation between Jesus
and a Samaritan woman in John 4. Jesus purposely went into a Jewish no travel
zone known as Samaria. The account
states, “But He needed to go through
Samaria” (John 4:1-6a). Jesus had a divine appointment to keep.
“Jesus therefore, being wearied from His
journey, sat thus by the well.” (John 4:6b). Jesus was “wearied.” Jesus was hungry (Mat. 4:2; 21:18;
Luke 4:2). Jesus needed sleep (Mat. 8:24; Mk. 4:38; Luke 8:23). Jesus, God in
the flesh, willingly became a weak human. In Hebrews it states, “Therefore, in
all things He had to be made like His brethren, that He might be a merciful and
faithful High Priest in things pertaining to God, to make propitiation for the
sins of the people” (Heb. 2:17; cf. also Phil. 2:5-8). Jesus is merciful. He gave His life to satisfy justice and pay
off our deserved death penalty. Jesus, the God of the universe,
allowed Himself to be put in a situation where He would be wearied. That’s
incredible grace. Why did He do it? Because He wanted us to know and see that
He knows and sees us right where we live. Jesus is able to “sympathize with our
weaknesses, but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin” (Heb.
4:15). Jesus knows how weak we are. He empathizes with us and knows us. He
became one of us, without sin. He shows us the way of holiness. He made Himself
accessable and knowable, at great cost; death. That’s how much He loves us.
“It was about the sixth hour. 7
A woman of Samaria came to draw water. (John 4:6c-7a).
Normally women would come to the well to draw water early in the morning. It
was better to draw the heavy water in the cool of the morning than in the
blisteringly hot day sun. This woman drew water at “the sixth hour” or around
noon. Why did she come at noon to draw water? She was probably trying to avoid
meeting other woman or really anyone at the well. Later we will learn that this
woman was living in sin. She’s an outcast and probably ashamed or at least
shunned by other women in her community.
It continues, “Jesus said to her, “Give Me a drink. . . .” (John 4:7b). Why didn’t Jesus offer to
draw water for this woman? Wouldn’t that be the polite thing for Him to do? Was
He too shunning her? No, I don’t think so. There’s an important reason Jesus asked
this woman for some water. A viable way to enter into a witnessing conversation
is not always to do something for
someone else. Another way of reaching people
is to humbly ask them for help. Allowing people to invest in you or help
you is a good way to reach them. That’s what Jesus did here. Sometimes we need
to receive first before we can give the gospel.
“Then the woman of
Samaria said to Him, “How is it that You, being a Jew, ask a drink from me, a
Samaritan woman?” For Jews have no dealings with Samaritans.” (John 4:9). These words of the woman seem a bit indignant. Or maybe she
is simply surprised. Personally, I sense a bit of defiance; defensiveness in
the woman’s words. This is her, “You talkin/ to me?” It was very unusual for a
Jewish man to even speak with a woman let alone a Samaritan woman.
Jews and Samaritans were at odds with one another
historically. Samaritans were the product of Jews who compromised and broke God’s
law intermarrying with gentile Assyrians (cf. Ec. 34:10-16; Deut. 7:3-4). Jews
looked down on Samaritans as an unwanted presence in what Jews saw as their
land. We have a similar situation today with the illegal immigration situation
(though Samaritans were not illegally in the land.)
Women were looked down on by men in this culture.
A rabbi would not talk to women in public; not even their own wives at times. She
was a hated Samaritan, a half-breed product of traitorous Jews who had
intermarried with foreign pagan Assyrians. She was unredeemable as far as many
religious people were concerned. But she was not unredeemable to Jesus.
“Jesus answered and said to her, “If you knew the gift of God, and who it is who says to you, ‘Give Me a
drink,’ you would have asked Him, and He would have given you living water.” (John 4:10). Jesus now turns
the conversation to the spiritual realm. Jesus says, “If you knew. . .” This
implies the woman is missing out on something. Jesus is perking her interest; drawing
her more deeply into conversation. We might say when giving out a track, “Did
you get one of these?” That perks a person’s interest to receive a track.
Jesus continues, “If you knew the gift of God. .
.” Jesus is presenting grace to her. We will soon see as the conversation
develops that this is a woman in dire need of God’s grace. Her life is in
shambles and she needs the touch of God. Speaking of a “gift,” something
offered freely, would perk the woman’s interest further. Something was offered
for free that she hadn’t yet received. Everyone wants something that’s “free.”
When we give a tract and say, “Did you get one of these?” we are implying
something of worth is offered and it is offered “for free.” That’s something the
person we are witnessing to should not miss out on.
Jesus perks this woman’s interest even further by
saying, “and who says to you, ‘Give Me a drink,’ you would have asked Him, . .
.” Who was this Man speaking with her? Apparently He was no ordinary Man. He was speaking to her. Jesus is Someone
special and worth knowing further. It’s always good to speak to people about
Jesus and whether or not they know Him.
Jesus says if this woman knew who Jesus was she
would have known to ask Him for water, “and He would have given you living
water.” “Living water,” is fresh water as opposed to stagnant water from a
well. It is water that is the best. It is water from a running river that is
clear and cool and most refreshing. It’s good to offer people something they
need to draw them into conversation. Then hopefully it will lead to meeting
their greatest need; receiving Jesus as personal Savior.
“The woman said to Him, “Sir, You have
nothing to draw with, and the well is deep. Where then do You get that living
water?” (John 4:11). Notice the respectful way this woman
speaks to “Sir” Jesus. Jesus has earned her respect. Jesus has perked her
interest in speaking of “the gift of God” and “living water.” She was an
observant woman noticing Jesus had no bucket with which to draw water out of
the well. She may have been implying that Jesus, who was thirsty, was
unprepared to meet His own needs. She is parrying with Jesus. But Jesus’ has
successfully drawn this woman to inquire further into what He was talking
about. Jesus was a Master of conversation. We should be too.
This woman was interested in the “living water.”
“Where then do You get that living water?” He doesn’t have the equipment to
draw water from Jacob’s well. She wants living water if she can get it. Something
didn’t add up. Maybe she is beginning to think, Maybe this Man is speaking of something more than regular water.
“Are You greater than our father Jacob,
who gave us the well, and drank from it himself, as well as his sons and his
livestock?” (John 4:12). The woman pushes back again. She
asserts the heritage of Jacob for herself. Jews would normally deny this. The
woman is taking a stand. She isn’t going to back down from Jesus. Her response
is a little bit of “who are you to speak to me about ‘living water’?” It’s
more, “You talkin’ to me?” But Jesus is leading her from the material realm to
the spiritual. It’s not uncommon when witnessing to someone to have them react
with a bit of push back. Notice, Jesus isn’t put off by her statement. We
shouldn’t be either.
“Jesus answered and said to her, “Whoever drinks of this water will thirst again,” (John 4:13). Jesus points out the limitations
of what this woman has been initially seeking. Jesus is offering something more
important than what the woman has come to the well to get. Natural water
quenches a temporary physical thirst. Drink water from Jacob’s well and you
“will thirst again.” You’ll never find true and lasting fulfillment in the
natural world. There are more important things to do than live to fulfill your
temporal physical needs. Life is more
than living to fulfill material needs. That will not fulfill you. It will
not last. You’ll just thirst for more. That is the message of Jesus. Why is
this true? Jesus goes on to tell us.
Jesus continues, “but whoever drinks of the
water that I shall give him will never thirst. But the water that I shall give
him will become in him a fountain of water springing up into everlasting life.” (John 4:14). Notice Jesus
says what He is offering is available for, “whoever.” Just as in His
conversation with Nicodemus (John 3) Jesus again asserts the accessibility and
availability to all of what He is
offering. The living water Jesus offers is for whoever will take and drink it. Are you an outcast, a social pariah?
Are you shamed and shunned? Are you living in sin? Are you thirsty for more in
life? Your thirst isn’t quenchable with anything form this world. You need
Jesus’ living water. And aren’t you glad God offers all of us this living water? Thank You Lord for Your gracious
generosity!
Jesus is the One who gives this water. He says,
“the water that I shall give him.” Jesus is the Source of living water. Jesus
is the One who gives. You have to ask
Jesus for this water. When we see the word “give” here, we should see grace. This woman didn’t go seeking
Jesus. Jesus purposely went into Samaria for this divine appointment. When this
woman awoke that day she had no idea she would meet this Stranger and enter
into a conversation with Him. Jesus was seeking her out. God seeks us out. That
is grace.
It’s always good to point out to people you
witness to that the conversation you are having with them is not an accident. You conversation with them is
a God incident; a divine appointment. The
Lord is seeking them out by various circumstances in life. They should be
asking, “Why me? Why are you having this conversation with me?” The answer is
that Jesus is seeking them out because He cares for and loves them. The answer
is because Jesus has something of eternal worth He wants to share with them.
This is the grace that goes before; prevenient grace; God in Christ reaching
out to a lost world. Right now, your reading this teaching is an example of God’s
prevenient grace and His love for you.
Jesus emphasizes the value of what He is offering.
The water Jesus is offering quenches an eternal thirst. God creates humanity
with “eternity in their hearts” (Eccl. 3:8). We are created with a yearning thirst
for God. It’s true; every
human really does have a God shaped hole in their heart that only He can fill. A personal saving relationship with God in Christ is the only way to
satisfy our thirst for eternal fulfillment.
“The woman said to Him, “Sir, give me
this water, that I may not thirst, nor come here to draw.” (John 4:15). The woman wants the living water Jesus is offering. Jesus
has gotten this woman’s interest. Jesus has entered into a patient and measured
conversation. She is seeking more. She understands what Jesus is saying. She
understands what He is offering has permanent value, eternal value. Jesus will
reel in this human fish. But she still sees in terms of alleviating some of her
work (“nor come here to draw.”) She is not adequately positioned to receive
Jesus’ living water yet. There is one more step this woman has to take before
she can experience the living water Jesus is talking about.
“Jesus said to her, “Go,
call your husband, and come here.” 17
The woman answered and said, “I have no husband.” Jesus said to her, “You have well said, ‘I have no husband,’ 18 for you have had five
husbands, and the one whom you now have is not your husband; in that you spoke
truly.” (John
4:16-18). There is no genuine conversion
without conviction of sin. This is so
important. There is no true conversion without repentance. There is an aberrant
teaching that presents the gospel as mere belief in Jesus. That sounds good but
it is not the gospel. Demons “believe” and shudder with condemnation and fear
of their eternal destiny awaiting them (James 2:19). When we look at the
gospels we see numerous occasions where demons addressed Jesus and knew who He
was (e.g. Mark 1:24; Luke 4:34), but demons are not saved! Demons may know Jesus,
but they certainly haven’t repented of their sin. Is your faith demonic?
Demonic faith is a mere assent or statement of fact without heart repentance.
Five terminated marriages. Think
of the brokenness involved with that. Think of the sorrow, the disappointment. Maybe
her husbands died. Maybe they divorced her. Maybe it was a combination of both.
There was pain there, failure there. Jesus pointed out and opened the wounds. That’s
the only way healing can come. This woman was thirsty. Jesus was going to help
her quench her thirst. Jesus gently but firmly speaks reality and truth to this
woman. He affirms that the woman has spoken honestly in admitting she has no
husband. The truth of God always brings conviction to the sinner. Jesus speaks
the truth in love. We should too (e.g. Eph. 4:15). Jesus uses the Law to bring
conviction of sin to this woman. We should too. The Law of God is like a tutor
that convicts the sinner of their sin and points them to the cross for
redemption (Romans 7:7; Gal. 3:24). The Law is to expose sin and help the sinner see their sinfulness (1Tim.
1:8-11). Here the portion of the Law Jesus uses is the
seventh commandment prohibiting adultery (Exodus 20:14). And she is living with
but not married to a man; that’s fornication (Eph. 5:3-7). This woman is living
in sin. She must realize her sinfulness and repent of it and trust Jesus as her
Savior.
Are you thirsty for more? Are you broken? Jesus
has water that will mend your broken heart and quench your thirst forevermore.
And He offers this living water to whoever would turn from their sin and trust
in Him as Savior. Thirsty? “You talkin’ to me?” Yes, Jesus is talkin’ to you
who are thirsty. Come drink from the streams of life He provides.